Dating Intelligence the Podcast

How to Spot Gaslighting While It’s Happening (and Stop Letting Your Triggers Run the Relationship)

8.3K views · 4d ago · 59:19

Christopher Louis and Natalie Stavola dig into what actually happens in the moments that break relationships: when you’re being gaslit, when a trigger hijacks you, and when a conflict starts spiraling. They cover how to recognize gaslighting while it’s happening rather than three days later, why trying to fix a trigger in the heat of the moment never works, and how unhealed wounds and limiting beliefs make you an easy target.

Topics: The ACDC conflict management model explained · The upcoming trip to India and working with monks and the Dalai Lama · Understanding the concept of being in prison in your mind · The role of complacency in long-term relationships · Grounding techniques and mindfulness practices for anxiety · The importance of starting small and building habits

Jealousy Isn't the Enemy: Modern Relationship Design featuring Ally Iseman

25K views · 1mo ago · 1:21:18

Guest: Ally Iseman

What if jealousy isn't a red flag, but information? Christopher and Natalie sit down with Ally Iseman, ICF-Certified Relationship Coach, founder of Passport 2 Pleasure, and forthcoming author of For the Love of Jealousy, to break down one of the most misunderstood emotions in dating and relationships.

I Moved Back In. Here's What Rebuilding Trust Actually Looks Like

34K views · 1mo ago · 1:20:00

Christopher Louis and Natalie Stavola cover a wide-ranging, highly personal conversation about travel, family transitions, event hosting, and the relationship work that sits underneath it all. They also share practical dating advice, including why the right venue and the right framing can lower pressure and help people connect more naturally.

Topics: Christopher’s Otter Spirit crystal shoutout · Natalie’s Ike’s Love and Sandwiches event shoutout · Favorite sandwiches and what makes a great sub · Discovering a caprese sandwich in Monte Carlo · Dairy, lactose intolerance, and bread preferences · Gluten-free, vegan labels, and food identity

Stop Forcing It: Colleen Shannon on Manifestation, Visibility, and Letting Success Land

11K views · 2mo ago · 1:02:46

DJ, model, actress, and entrepreneur Colleen Shannon has spent two decades building a career most people would call impossible to categorize — and she’s not apologizing for it. Christopher and Natalie dig into what it takes to reinvent yourself in public, from playing to crowds of ten to headlining for thousands, and why Colleen sat on dozens of unreleased tracks before dropping her new single, Dance for Life — which just cracked the Apple Music Top 20.

Topics: Introducing Colleen Shannon and her wide-ranging career · Why now was the right time to release original music · Why being multi-talented is a strength, not a flaw · Touring the world before ever releasing a track · From tiny rooms to massive crowds · Festival visuals, graphics, and the future of live shows

The Rock Bottom Rebuild: How Men Learn to Trust Again | feat. Jordan Candlish

18K views · 2mo ago · 1:08:07

Guest: Jordan Candlish

Most men think trust is something you either have or don't. Jordan Candlish disagrees — and he'd know. After a heartbreak that put him flat on the floor, Jordan rebuilt himself from the inside out and became one of the leading voices helping men become the kind of partner people can actually rely on.

Topics: Jordan Candless’ background and the mission behind his work · Personal story of heartbreak and the awakening moment · The significance of internal stability and emotional grounding · Common "rock bottom" moments that prompt men to seek change · Recognizing old emotional reactions and interrupting patterns · The power of awareness and curiosity in emotional regulation

Celebrating 150 Episodes Deep: The Inner Work Behind Better Relationships

43K views · 3mo ago · 1:14:52

Christopher and Natalie hit a milestone most podcasts never reach: episode 150. In this unscripted, no-notes conversation, they pull back the curtain on what it's actually taken to keep Dating Intelligence going — the burnout, the format pivots, the moments they almost quit — and why the real work was never about dating advice, it was about doing the inner work themselves first.

Topics: Host Appreciation and Show Evolution · Overcoming Burnout and Staying Motivated · The Power of Authenticity and Charisma · How Social Media Sparks Led to Collaboration · Podcast Format Changes and Video Integration · The Importance of Perspective in Relationships

Confidence Is Your Best Profile: Dating, Energy & Authenticity

13K views · 3mo ago · 1:00:56

Natalie Stavola and Christopher Louis dive into what really creates attraction in today's digital world—and it's not the perfect photo or carefully curated profile. From dating app pictures and social media filters to confidence, presence, and self-worth, they explore how authenticity becomes your greatest advantage.

Topics: The Reality of Bathroom Selfies and Profile Photos · The Evolution of Self-Perception and Photos · The Skill of Taking Good Photos and Posing · Authenticity vs. Filters and FaceTune · The Impact of Social Media and Editing Apps · Inner Confidence and Self-Love in Dating

The Truth About Marriage: Why We Choose the Wrong Partners | Jamie Lynn

17K views · 4mo ago · 50:56

Guest: Jamie Lynn

In this episode of Dating Intelligence, hosts Christopher and Natalie explore the complex landscape of love, marriage, and self-discovery. Featuring therapist Jamie Lynn, they delve into societal pressures, the evolving mindset around marriage, and how personal growth influences relationship choices. Whether you're contemplating marriage or navigating love at any age, this conversation offers clarity and fresh perspectives.

Topics: Guest introduction and conversation about her background · Perspective on marriage and societal conditioning · The influence of childhood and societal programming · The importance of authentic connection over societal approval · Why many women marry for status, not love · Differences in marriage mindset across life stages

Loving Out Loud: Inside The Poly Couple's Comedy, Chaos, and Real Talk on Non-Monogamy

23K views · 4mo ago · 36:08

Guest: Loving Out Loud

Dana and Daniel built a viral comedy series out of their real polyamorous relationship — and the result is funnier, messier, and more honest than most people expect.

Topics: Welcome and episode overview: Exploring humor and honesty in polyamory · Introducing Dana and Daniel, creators of a viral poly series · What is polyamory? Definitions and misconceptions · How they discovered polyamory and its inspiration from historical tour stories · The realities and challenges of opening up a relationship · The importance of trust and communication in navigating poly environments

The Invisible Reason You Keep Attracting the Wrong Person | feat. Stefanie Truino

9.2K views · 4mo ago · 48:58

Guest: Stefanie Truino

You've done the therapy. You've read the books. You've done the work — or at least you think you have. So why does the same relationship keep showing up with a different face? In this episode, Christopher and co-host Natalie Stavola sit down with energy healer Stefanie Truino to explore what traditional self-help can't reach: the energetic and subconscious layers driving your love life from underneath.

Topics: Exploring Dating Dynamics and New Partnerships · Introducing Energy Healing and Its Impact · Understanding Emotional Blockages in Relationships · Skepticism and the Healing Process · Reprogramming Thought Forms for Better Relationships · Exploring Inner Child Healing

Boundaries, Blind Spots & Better Love

33K views · 5mo ago · 1:03:14

Modern dating has a noise problem — reality TV selling fairy tales, apps reducing attraction to a swipe, and social media quietly eroding how we see ourselves and what we expect from love. In this episode, Christopher Louis and Natalie Stavola cut through all of it.

Topics: Exploring Intentional Dating and Matchmaking · Navigating Relationship Dynamics · Conscious Uncoupling and Healing · Balancing Relationships and Personal Growth · Harnessing Anger for Growth · The Dynamics of Relationship Conflicts

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11 views · 6mo ago · 10:29

Guest: Michael Saylor

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How Self Awareness Transforms Your Love Life! feat. Ana Christian

21K views · 6mo ago · 1:10:17

Guest: Ana Christian

What if the biggest reason your relationships aren’t working... is something you’re not fully seeing? In this episode of Dating Intelligence, host Christopher Louis and co-host Natalie Stavola sit down with relationship coach Ana Lea Christian to explore how self-awareness directly shapes your love life—who you’re attracted to, how you show up, and why certain patterns keep repeating.

Topics: The Importance of Boredom and Self-Reflection · Introducing Ana Lea Christian · The Dangers of Leading with Assets in Dating · Understanding High-Value Relationships · From Performance to Authenticity · Healing Childhood Patterns & Self-Worth

Dating After Divorce: How to Rebuild Yourself & Attract the Right Partner! feat. Kristine Krishnan

11K views · 6mo ago · 59:14

Guests: Dating After Divorce, Kristine Krishnan

What if divorce wasn’t the end... but your biggest opportunity to rebuild your life and relationships the right way? In this episode of Dating Intelligence, host Christopher Louis and guest Kristine Krishnan break down the reality of dating after divorce—what actually works, what holds people back, and how to move forward with clarity, confidence, and emotional maturity.

Topics: Investing in Relationships: A New Approach · New Year, New Beginnings: Setting Intentions · Emotional Maturity and Conscious Connection · Reinventing Yourself After Divorce · Navigating Life Post-Divorce · Overcoming Fear and Embracing Change

How Trauma Shapes Attraction (And Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Partners) | with Sheena Reynolds

19K views · 7mo ago · 1:21:41

Guest: Sheena Reynolds

How Trauma Shapes Attraction (And Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Partners) | with Sheena Reynolds Description What if your attraction patterns aren’t random... but programmed? In this powerful episode of Dating Intelligence, host Christopher Louis and co-host Natalie Stavola sit down with Sheena Reynolds to unpack how trauma silently shapes who we’re drawn to, how we show up in relationships, and why so many people repeat the same painful patterns.

Topics: Introducing Sheena Reynolds: A Journey of Reinvention · From Israel to America: Sheena’s Story · Resilience, Mindset & Growth · How Trauma Shapes Attraction · Escapism & Self-Discovery · Feminism & Political Extremes